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Mom's Guide to Self-Care: Support Mental Health to Create Total Wellness

We’ve got good news for moms: we’re halfway there. We’re already pros  at caring for others. If our kid needs comfort, we know just the song.  If they’re covered with mud, we’ve got bubbles for bath time. If they  are bouncing off the walls, we know which park will do the trick. All  day, we make sure bellies are full, necks are hugged, appointments are  made and homework is understood. But studies show that 78% of women report putting off their own care.

So, where’s the disconnect?

Why is caring for ourselves so hard?

We let guilt creep in.

We don’t know what self-care is.

We ignore emotional hunger.

 A major roadblock for many moms with a beautiful reminder to shift our  perspective. We teach our children habits like washing their hands to  protect their health. What if we viewed self-care in the same way? If we  can make it a healthy habit rather than a guilty indulgence, we’re much  more likely to stay happy, healthy and dependable for our kids. In  fact, we should celebrate chances for self-care as an excellent  opportunity to be healthy models for our children.

We ignore emotional hunger.

We don’t know what self-care is.

We ignore emotional hunger.

 Just as we encourage hand washing for our kids, we also give our kids  healthy food when they need a meal or a snack. Too many in our  society have been brought up to ignore the sensations of emotional  hunger, and keep pouring out, regardless of depleted condition.  There’s a risk with this behavior: burnout. Human beings can only  pour out so much before they become empty. 

We don’t know what self-care is.

We don’t know what self-care is.

We don’t know what self-care is.

 At its core, self-care is anything that brings us joy. We have to know ourselves enough to know what will replenish us on the other end. Our self-care goals become checklist items, then that's not self-care. On the other hand, self-care is intentional. True self-care takes both initiative to know when you are in need  and action to seek your own care. 

Help for Moms in an Anxious World

Awareness may sound a little buzzwordy, but in practice, it’s a  beautiful thing. It sounds like an open conversation over coffee. It  feels like a hug while dropping off a meal. It looks like making your  first appointment with a counselor or therapist.


Moms who’ve never experienced mental health issues may  need help now. Many parents have had to adjust schedules, expectations,  working situations and responsibilities during this season — a time of  social distancing marked by increased stress, psychological strain and  even trauma.

To give our readers helpful guidelines while navigating new waters,  we chatted with women who are social workers, counselors, moms and  women’s directors.


1. What are the most common mental health issues moms face?
Our  experts agree that anxiety is the top mental health issue for mothers.  Depression and post-traumatic stress disorder to the list.


2. What’s the difference between stress and anxiety or depression?
"Temporary” (and unfortunately unavoidable at times)  as opposed to the deeper, overwhelming pattern of anxiety and  depression.


Depression and anxiety may get in the way of doing everyday  activities, like taking care of yourself and your child. They are  long-lasting and won’t go away on their own. But they are treatable,  which is why it’s crucial to get help.


3. What are warning signs you need help?
Seek immediate help for any suicidal  urges or thoughts. But the idea behind initiatives like Mental Health  Awareness is to encourage people to get help before that point. We recommend that a mom ask for help  - when she first notices a pattern of  feeling overwhelmed or anxious. That’s the time for her to reach out and  get therapeutic support, before things get worse.


Other warning signs like feeling depleted,  resentful or isolated. Feelings of sadness, anxiety, worry,  irritability or sleep problems are common for most people. However, when  these feelings get very intense, last for an extended period and begin  to interfere with school, work and relationships, it may be a sign of a  mental health problem.


4. How can friends and family help?
Someone who struggles with their mental  health is on a long journey of healing; there’s no quick fix.  Consistency and patience are key when you’re part of someone’s support  system. A lot of what partners, friends and family can do is very  practical. Bring a meal. Be an empathetic listener. Offer to babysit.  Help them make their first appointment. Ask how you can help lighten the  load.


5. What’s not helpful to someone dealing with anxiety or depression?
The most important thing for friends and  family to do is to understand that this mom would help herself if she  could. No one deliberately chooses to feel anxious or depressed.  Friends and family should avoid adding guilt to someone’s mental health  struggles. Avoid phrases like: “Be happy;” You have so much to be  grateful for;” “Think positively!” or even “Trust God.” Instead, focus  on empathetic non-judgement like: “That sounds hard.” Anything you can  do to show you hear and understand your loved one will be immensely  helpful.

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